It only happens ... if YOU let it. Have you ever left a dating experience feeling like a complete fool, wondering what the heck happened? You clearly missed the warning signals the guy sent, or perhaps didn’t know what to look for.
You go on a first date with a man who has many qualities youâre seeking. He tells you right away he doesnât want a relationship and then engages you in interesting conversation. You like him and decide to see where things go. This is a big mistake.
When a man says he doesnât want a relationship, you need to believe him and move on.
This man â you know him from work, the gym or church â is such a flirt! He goes out of his way to turn your head. Funny thing is he never asks you out. Heâs always happy to see you, but it doesnât go any further and thatâs your clue heâs not seriously interested.
Any man who wants to date you will ask you out. If he doesnât, thereâs something holding him back, so move on.
his is a tough one. Some women are drawn to a man, who appears vulnerable and admits heâs never been in love, like a moth to a flame. He becomes your "love project" because you think he just hasnât met the right woman yet (a.k.a. you!).
Thoughts like these will leave you feeling foolish when he breaks it off. If he hasnât been in love and heâs over 40, he doesnât want to be in love. Donâtâ fall for this â please walk away.
So many men love texting. But any man who texts you "Good morning Beautiful" but doesnât have time to see you is probably texting several other women the same message. Imagine the ego boost of texting with a bunch of single gals.
Donât waste your time no matter how much fun texting him is or how "into you" he seems. If he was serious, heâd spend time with you in person.
This is a tricky red flag because he tells you right off he doesnât want anything serious. Yet, he dangles the possibility of a relationship based on how things go.
In your mind you know things could will go great because you're a great catch. So, you decide to take the chance. Big mistake!
When a man tells you he isnât serious, he means it. Finish your glass of wine and say goodbye.
Your date suggests takeout and watching a movie at your place (The old "Netflix and chill" routine). Sounds cozy right? But this is the man code for "booty call." He comes over to your place, but he never takes you out on a proper dinner date.
Why? Chances are he canât risk being seen in public with another woman because heâs in a relationship or married. Avoid dates at home until you've had several dates in public to see how serious a man is about pursuing you.
When you call and ask him to do something, he agrees to meet you. But he never initiates anything.
Is he lazy? Maybe, but the more likely motivation (or lack of it) is that heâs just passing time with you. He has fun and youâre willing to do all the work, so why not spend time with you until he meets a woman he likes more.
Donât be a place holder if you donât want to feel foolish. If he doesnât ask you out, regardless of the reason, drop him fast.
Once you spot any of these seven red flags, commit to walk away and find a better prospect.
I understand that walking away is not easy. Some men seem too cute, charming, or fun to reject them and resist their advances. But, don't waste time with men who make a fool of you. If you have any inkling or suspicion, move on because there are plenty of good men out there for you to date.